The City of Mesa is wearing purple on October 30, 2017 to show support for prevention and awareness to end domestic violence. Join us and wear purple #MESAWEARSPURPLE. Look for our hashtag for information and awareness on social media.
What is Domestic Violence? Domestic violence is when one partner in an intimate relationship abuses the other. Domestic Violence includes any pattern of behavior, the purpose of which, is to gain power and control over a spouse, partner, girl/boyfriend or intimate family member. Abuse is a learned behavior; it is not caused by anger, mental problems, drugs or alcohol, or other common excuses.
What is Abuse? Abuse can be verbal, psychological, emotional, financial, physical, sexual, or spiritual or any combination of these.
Who is abused? Domestic violence is a common reality in our society. It occurs in all social classes, ethnic groups, cultures and religions.
What is the Cycle of Violence?
Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior that typically runs through phases that continuously repeats itself. As time goes on, the length of time between phases will shorten, and in some instances the “honeymoon” phase disappears altogether. It is important to remember that not all relationships fit the cycle.
Tension building phase
When tension builds in the relationship, victims may feel like they are “walking on eggshells” around the abuser. This phase can last for a few hours or for months, or anything in between.
The abusive incident usually occurs when the tension finally breaks.
During the honeymoon phase, the abuser may apologize, buy gifts, or be extra affectionate to “make up” for the abuse. Many will promise to change, to stop abusing, or that it will never happen again. These assurances are intended to persuade the victim to stay in the relationship. Once the honeymoon phase is over, the tension building phase begins again, and the comforting promises the abuser made will be broken. Although the abuse may be terrible, the promises and generosity of the honeymoon phase give the victim the false belief that everything will be all right.